So, you’ve been chosen as maid of honor for your best friend’s wedding! Yay, but wait, there is one little, teeny responsibility that sends the most self assured maid of honor into a panic. The Maid of Honor Speech. Yikes! Maid of honor speeches are one of the most important duties of the maid of honor. The words spoken to the bride and groom, and their wedding guests, should convey the importance of the day and connect the guests with the couple on a more meaningful level. So this is a big deal! No worries. Even though the maid of honor speech seems a little overwhelming, with a bit of preparation and creativity, you’ve got this covered. Could end up become one of the highlights of the bride and groom’s special day.
Tips to Writing a Memorable Maid of Honor Speech
1) Don’t forget the basics! It’s easy to forget the basic information when you start your speech, but do remember to introduce yourself and tell how long you have known the couple, as well as what your connection to the bride is. Many of the wedding guests may not know you, so this information is important.
2) Remember to thank the bride and groom for allowing you to be a part of their special day. The bride and groom could have chosen anyone, but instead, they chose you to play such a pivotal role in their day. By acknowledging this in your speech, it shows the couple, and the wedding guests that you appreciate them placing you in such a special role. It also shows you are honored by their trust in you, that they could depend on you to carry out the necessary duties in being maid of honor.
3) Use your history with the bride as a foundation for your speech. Whether you have known the bride since childhood, or only for a few months, sharing a special memory between the two of you shows the significance of your bond. It also highlights the positive aspects of the bride’s personality which may have been a factor in drawing the bride and groom together. Remember, however, not to embarrass the bride with overly personal stories.
4) Infuse a bit of humor. While adding a joke or a one liner to the speech can break the ice and loosen up the crowd a bit, use caution as to not go too far. The last thing you want to do is offend the bride or groom, or any of the wedding guests. Keep the joke simple, for example, “I’m told that the best speech givers follow three simple rules: Stand up, speak up, and then very quickly, shut up. I’ll try to stick to that advice.” By keeping the joke clean and simple, you avoid the risk of losing your audience.
5) Don’t be afraid to use a quote. There are thousands of wedding appropriate quotes out there. The most important thing to remember is to choose a quote that is appropriate for the couple. If you want to play it safe, a sentimental quote that speaks about everlasting love is always a good choice.
6) Get creative! If you don’t want to go the typical route, consider doing something a bit different to honor the couple. Maybe a song or dance or even a slideshow could add a new dimension to the usual maid of honor speech. If you opt to add a creative touch, remember to choose something in line with the couple’s taste. A poem is also a nice touch to a maid of honor speech.
7) Always end on a positive note. Wind your speech up with positive words for the couple. Wish them a long and happy life together and remember to offer your support.
Prepare your speech well in advance of the day and practice it over and over again to avoid stammers and jitters. Don’t be afraid to take a few note cards to help you stay on track in the event you lose your place. Above all, have fun and remember you are honoring the couple on their special day. After all, your speech is a very important extension of their wedding ceremony. But, no pressure! 😉
by Sharon Vaz
Photo by Craig Photography of Pittsburgh