I also feel that it helps you relax if you designate times for planning your wedding. Due to sheer excitement, you will find that you have "wedding on the brain" and may think about it 24-7. Pick a couple of days a week and set aside a time slot to surf the internet or make phone calls to schedule appointments. This will keep you from becoming totally consumed and also give you a chance to focus on the rest of the life that is still happening around you. Delegate, delegate, delegate. When I am asked to be an attendant in a wedding, I assume that I am taking on a responsibility. It is my job to help in any way that I can, even if it means to simply be there if the bride needs someone to unload some frustrations. The point in saying this is, your bridesmaids are there for you, and most of the time, they are more than happy to have the opportunity to lend a hand. So don't be afraid to ask for help, or make small task lists for your attendants and always remember to say "Thanks." This will take a lot of the weight off of your shoulders and make your bridesmaids feel as though they are needed.