Weddings are a highly emotional, high-stake, super-sensitive, family-oriented gathering. I know surely two days into your planning, you will discover that fact. Unfortunately, the unscrupulous are privy to this information, as well. What does that mean for you and me? Together, we have to sort through the shady vendors and clauses and come out unscathed for your beautiful wedding. But let's say you don't have the assistance of a wedding consultant (gasp!). Here are some sure fire indicators that you can be "had", and how to avoid them.

You beg or whine. Sounds ridiculous, but it's true! We've seen them on Bridezillas and other reality shows. The brides that lose all sense of sanity, decorum and tact. You may as well have a red dot on your head. Begging and whining may have worked with your parents, and may even win an argument with the future husband, but this is business.