1. Everyone will have advice for you. . . As soon as you tell someone that you are planning a wedding, you will be given advice, even if you are not asking for it! Everyone will know what is best for you, and they may even be critical of your plans thus far. It is always kind to listen to their advice…but remember that you do not have to follow their advice. Learning how to inject phrases into the conversation such as, “I never thought of that.” or “That’s something to consider.” will help to keep you and all involved happy.

2. Have the wedding that you want to have. . . You and your fiancé should be the two most influential people planning your wedding. Mom, Dad and the future In-laws will all want to play a part in this special day, but ultimately it is your wedding and your memory. If you and your fiancé have a definite vision for time of year, venue or theme, then by all means follow your hearts. Now, those that do not agree with you may sulk or even refuse to be involved if you decide to go through with your own plan, making for a very uncomfortable and stressful situation. This is where compromise comes into play. Perhaps give in to the little things that are not extremely important to you. This will allow you to have more leverage when you stand firm on the make-or-break decisions that could impact your feelings about your wedding day for many years to come.