How To... Decide Who Pays For What
We all know that figuring out who pays for a wedding can sometimes be a
touchy and confusing issue. It is not as clear-cut as it used to be. Though
there is no set way the bill has to be split, here is a traditional guideline of
how the costs are customarily divided.
The Bride:
• Groom’s
wedding ring and gift
• Gifts for the maid of honor and bridesmaids
• Wedding Dress (and accessories)
• Wedding Consultant
The Groom:
• Brides
engagement and wedding rings, and gift
• Gifts for the best man and ushers
• Marriage license
• Officiant’s fee
• Tuxedo
• Boutonnieres
• The honeymoon
The Bride’s Family:
• Invitations and announcements
• Wedding stationary
• Transportation and parking expenses
• The reception
• Flowers for the wedding, including bouquets for the
bride and her attendants
• Photographer and/or videography
• DJ or Band
The Groom’s Family:
• Rehearsal dinner
• Ties and gloves for the groom’s party
• Flowers to be worn by immediate family members
The Attendants:
• Cost of dress or tuxedo
• Travel expenses, if the wedding is out of town
• Gift for the bride and groom
• Brides attendants pay for the bridal shower and
Bachelorette party
• Groom’s attendants pay for the bachelor party
Above all else, make sure the joy and
goodwill that should accompany your wedding is not overshadowed by controversy
or ill will over who is paying for what. Sensitivity to the financial
capabilities of both families is imperative. Care should be taken to not cause
undue financial burden and even embarrassment if the one who “customarily”
should pay really can’t afford to. The groom and bride should take the lead in
openly discussing with the families how to allocate the costs of “their wedding
day” so everyone can feel comfortable with their contribution before and after
the wedding. Clarifying the financial responsibilities early on will create a
sense of harmony throughout the wedding planning process.
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