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Q: I have been
through a messy divorce. I want a prenuptial agreement, but am not sure
how to approach this subject with my future wife. How can I do this
without her thinking our marriage has already failed?
A: Prenuptial agreements are
becoming more common every day. First, talk to your attorney. Find out
exactly what is included in the agreement, how it is worded, how it will
work with your will, and the effect it may have on your children or other
family members. Once you are clear on the legalities, talk your fiancé.
Explain to her how you feel. Although you love her, and plan to spend the
rest of your life with her, it is important to you to have an agreement as
to your finances before you are married, based on what you’ve been through
with your former wife. You may also suggest she have an agreement drawn up
in terms of her personal assets, because you would like her to feel
protected as well. This can be a very sensitive area. You’ll need to
explain to her this is not reducing your marriage to dollars and cents, it
is only strengthening your relationship. You both have mutual respect and
understanding for each others wishes! Best Regards,
Andi
Q: What is the
financial responsibility of a 38 year old groom's family for his third
wedding? This is the bride's first wedding. Thank you.
A: There is no financial
responsibility for a 38 year old groom’s family. If assistance is offered,
the groom should graciously accept. It is customary for the groom’s family
to contact the bride’s family, shortly after learning of the engagement,
to set up a time to meet with them. The groom’s family is responsible for
furnishing a legible guest list, with the proper number of guests.
Additionally, they can be a great support system for the groom, reminding
him of his many responsibilities, (picking up the rings, paying the
officiant, gifts for the groomsmen, ordering the bouquet and boutonnieres,
etc.). The groom’s family should also throw a bachelor dinner for their
son, and offer to help out by entertaining the wedding party, their
spouses, the officiant, and out-of-town guests the night before the
wedding.
Best Regards,
Andi
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