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Wedding Invitations, Announcements and Save the Date
How soon before the wedding should I send out the invitations? When should I expect to receive the RSVP’s back?
Plan on sending out your invitations six to eight weeks before the wedding. This will give your guests enough time to plan accordingly. You should order invitations approximately six months before the big day. This will allow for reprinting, if needed, and also give you enough time to address them. If this is a quickly planned wedding, mailing the invites three weeks prior is sufficient, although, the more time your guests have to make their plans, the better.
You will start to receive RSVP’s right away. Hopefully, you will have them all back two weeks before the wedding. However, more often than not, RSVP’s don’t get mailed back! Your guest may have thought it was sent back, and didn’t realize it was under a stack of mail! For those you didn’t hear back from, it is O.K. to call them about a week before the wedding. Don’t take on this task yourself, have someone else do it for you, perhaps a parent or sibling.
Is there any protocol on inviting people from the office to the wedding? My issue is that I'd love to have people attend, but since the wedding is in CT (we are in Pittsburgh), I know most people won't travel for it. Will it seem presumptuous of me to invite them even though I know they probably won't make the trip and it might be too expensive for some of them to make the trip?
In making your decision, there is just one thing to keep in mind. If there is a shower thrown for you, everyone invited to the shower must be invited to the wedding. That is the only real protocol for your situation.
I don’t think it would be presumptuous of you to invite your co-workers. I believe that some would probably get their feelings hurt if you didn’t invite them. It also depends on how close you are to your co-workers. There may be some (if they already know about the wedding) making travel plans already! I suggest you give them plenty of notice, so making travel arrangements is a little easier.
If you know people in CT that might be willing to put up a few of your co-workers for the event, this would help their expenses! If there are people in CT that actually do help out this way, you and your groom should present them with a thank you gift! It would also be a smart idea to pre-reserve a block of hotel rooms for the out of town guests. Most places will offer discounts for these types of things. So, go ahead and invite everyone on your list. You may be surprised at the turn out!
So we sent out our save-the-dates and some folks have let us know they won't be able to make the trip for our wedding. Do we still send them an official invitation?
Since they are somewhat new, it seems the rules of etiquette are still being written for save-the-dates. But, there is one thing for certain. Everyone who receives a save-the-date should also receive a formal invitation.